Secrets of a lasting relationship

Secrets of a lasting relationship

Ever wondered how those cute old-aged couples you see still holding hands and gazing into each other’s eyes after decades together managed to go the distance? Stick to these simple rules and you’re on the right track to becoming one of them…

Maintaining and managing ur time

Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to spend every waking hour with that person. Maintaining hobbies and a social life independent of one another will give you both some valuable time apart and make you appreciate your time together even more.

Support and nurture

Be aware of what’s going on in your partner’s life. If they’re having trouble at work, sit down and talk to them about it.  Ask questions, offer advice and do whatever you can to help them to relax and take their mind off things. Little gestures like giving them a soothing massage or running them a hot bath when they’re stressed will also go a long way toward securing your future happiness.

Share your feelings

Resentment is the most destructive emotion for a relationship. If your partner is doing something that irks you don’t just ignore it and carry on. Talk to them about it. You may end up exchanging a few cross words, but it’s far better to get things out in the open and work through the problem than to let things fester.

Good manners

After a few years together it’s all too easy to start taking one another for granted - neglecting to tell the other person when they look good or forgetting to thank them for taking the rubbish out. No matter how comfortable you become with each other always be polite.

Make them feel special

Keep the romance alive by treating your significant other to an occasional unexpected treat. Make them their favourite dinner or take them on a romantic date. Buy them a gift out of the blue just because you felt like it or send them a soppy text. Show them they’re always in mind no matter what you’re doing or how busy you are.

Make time for each other

Modern and hectic lifestyles can mean the time you spend together as a couple is taken up with practicalities like shopping for groceries. Be sure to set aside a few hours a week that’s devoted to just the two of you.

Respect each other

Many successful long-term relationships are between people who have opposing or at least differing opinions on politics, religion and even money. Remember, it’s okay to differ, just as long as you respect your other half for his/her views even if you don’t always agree with them.

Be prepared to compromise

Similarly, now that you’re part of a couple you need to recognise that things won’t always go your way. Relationships are all about give and take and you need to be prepared to make the odd sacrifice for the sake of your partner if you want your relationship to thrive. On the plus side, you might be surprised at just how good being flexible and giving can make you feel.

Make love a lot.

Sex is a crucial part of a loving and nurturing relationship, but is often one of the first things to wane when your life together becomes busy and stressful. Keep the magic alive in the bedroom by making time for sex, sharing your fantasies and going away on short breaks or weekends together as often as you can.

Take stock regularly

It’s only natural that both of you will evolve and grow as individuals over the years, so it’s important to have an annual relationship assessment to redefine and adjust your life goals together. What you both wanted from the relationship may have altered now that you’re a little bit older so check-in and make sure you’re both still on the same page.

Have constructive arguments

Every couple argues, it would be more worrying if you said you never did, but it’s how you handle these little altercations that will signal how well you’ll last as a couple in the long run. No matter how wound-up you are, listen to the other person’s point of view and never make personal attacks or interject. Remember, there should only ever be one person talking at a time.  Sometimes arguments will reach a logical conclusion and others you’ll just have to take a bit of time to cool off and agree to disagree.

Good nite story

A long time ago and far away, there was a small town where no one could sleep. It was, however, a typical town were parents worked during the day and kids played and went to school as usual.At night, they all tried to rest by either sitting or lying down, but they couldn't sleep even for a single moment, no matter how tired they were. So they just talk and chat during the nights. After all this talking their tongues got tired and the words refuse to flow. They all ended filled with silence, and wearied from looking at the walls. All of this happened every night, so we can imagine how they feel.One day they decided to ask for help. They went to see Ms. Hope. She was a wise elderly woman who lived at the other side of the mountains. Ms. Hope got her wisdom through the years lived, the books she read, and her contact with nature.Ms. Hope listened to her friend's woes, unlike them; she was able to sleep placidly. However, she wasn't able to explain to them how it happens. So she resolved to look for an answer.That evening, she went to the fields. Once there she found out that the animals lay down and closed their eyes after getting a convenient place to spend the night. The wise elderly woman came back with the news. They agree to do as the animals do. They will look for a comfortable place to rest, lay down and close their eyes. And so they did. But, they end up just as bored. The only difference was that now their eyes were closed.When the morning came, they all went back to see Ms. Hope, and told her what had happened. The wise elderly woman went back to the fields to find out how animals fall asleep. She tried to speak with those that had their eyes shut, but they did not even hear her. Some woke up angry because she disturbed their sleep.To those who woke up she asked, "how do you fall asleep? " But no one was able to explain how. She left the place quietly. Because she did not want to disturb those who have not heard her or the ones that went back to sleep.She walked to the river and sat on its bank to meditate. All of a sudden she saw the light of a glow-worm and heard the sweetest voice she ever heard."I have the answer to your question", said the glow-worm."I will be very glad if you tell me, because it will make my friends happy.""True happiness comes when you make other people happy. Happiness is like my light; it glows brighter when children and adults look at me with love.""But, you were going to give me the answer?""Oh! Yes, you need the answer! Well, the answer is to have the gift of fantasy."Where can I get it?""Place your hands under my wings, when I flap them, you will receive the dream and fantasy pollen. I picked it up from the flowers that at night are showered with stardust and cuddle with the silver moonlight. Spread it onto your friends eyelids and you will see them dreaming"."Dreaming…" whispered Ms. Hope.Then the glow-worm told her, "Dreaming is the magic of life. It is to look deep inside us. It's letting our imagination to roam free in our mind. The glow-worm flutters its wings. Ms. Hope spread her hands to collect the dream and fantasy pollen."Thanks for this beautiful gift. I will bring it right away to my friends", said the woman to the glow-worm. The glow-worm blinked its light twice to give regards to Ms. Hope and said good-bye.And that was how Ms. Hope's neighbors managed to sleep and to dream. Since then, the children dream with starry ways and new worlds filled with adventures. Parents dream with love, happiness and peace.Ms. Hope also dreams. She keep on working, studying and dreaming. Her friends call her Poet. She is always looking for new ways of making her dreams come true.

What a girl want a guy to do...

What a girl wants a guy to do

•   Give her one of your t-shirts to sleep in
•   Leave her cute text notes
•   Kiss her in front of your friends  
•   Tell her she looks beautiful
•   Look into her eyes when you talk to her
•   Just walk around with her
•   Forgive her for her mistakes
•   Look at her like she’s the only girl you see
•   Tickle her even when she says stop
•   Hold her ha...